kis·met \ˈkiz-ˌmet, -mət\ - noun; often capitalized
1. fate.
"We die. That may be the meaning of life. But we do language.
That may be the measure of our lives." - Toni Morrison

"Growing up Southern is a privilege, really. It's more than where you're born; it's an idea and state of mind that seems imparted at birth. It's more than loving fried chicken, sweet tea, football, and country music. It’s being hospitable, devoted to front porches, magnolias, moon pies, coca-cola... and each other. We don't become Southern - we're born that way." - Unknown

07 February 2010

mr. good enough

"Not to be sentimental, as I sound, but why the hell are we conditioned into the smooth strawberry-and-cream Mother-Goose-world, Alice-in-Wonderland fable, only to be broken on the wheel as we grow older and become aware of ourselves as individuals with a dull responsibility in life?" - Sylvia Plath
her prose gets me every time.

This is so true, though. From the time we are little girls, we are brought up in the Disney-prince-and-princess-world. A world of Mr. Darcys {although I have a theory on him that I will bring up later}. At best, a fabricated world of idealized, perfect men that don't exist in reality. This does us no good whatsoever.

Here is an interesting article about all of this; definitely applicable to men and women.


Mrs. Davis @ The Carolina Housewife said...

There's more truth in that article than I could even get to. Coming from someone who's married and has been in a three serious relationships and dated A LOT, she is right. People just don't want to believe her.

I'd like to know your unmarried woman perspective...

scchesleys said...

Kiersten and I had this very conversation! She told me that I had ruined her because she loves Mr. Darcy and Edward. I told her those are characters in works of fiction and in real life they would probably be complete buttheads. When I was thinking about whether to marry Mike, I had my list of absolutes and he met every one of those and we've worked out just dandy.

Karen said...

Well said scchesleys. And a list of absolutes IS a must...never settle for less!

Karen said...

Sylvia Plath...wasn't she a bit of a pessimist?